it pisses me off more than anything seeing games like ‘here, here’s your damn female character are y ou fucking happy now like’
wow that must have been so hard. it must have been so hard having only fucking white males for 20 fucking plus year and then being ‘forced’ to put a woman in the game. so hard. so sorry.
Aro/ce people are not playing hard to get
Aro/ce people are not heartless
Aro/ce people are not boring
Aro/ce people are not robots
Aro/ce people are not fake
Aro/ce people are not trying to be special snowflakes
Aro/ce people are not lonely
Aro/ce people are not sexually frustrated
Aro/ce people are real people with real emotions and they know what they want
I’ve never really liked the term “finding your other half”. I feel like when people say that, they’re implying that you aren’t whole. Like you’re an incomplete human being because you’re not in a relationship.
There’s lots of nice things about relationships, but it shouldn’t be a blow to individuality.
TW: (Potential triggers in relations to sexual abuse and coercion)
It’s kinda scary how many asexual don’t want to be in relationships or are afraid of their current relationship because of sexual pressure, abuse and coercion.
I’m hearing a lot of people saying that their partners are giving them no choice because they discovered their asexuality after they’ve been in the relationship for a while and therefore have to cater to their needs or they will leave or resent them; and if they dont outright say this they treat them rather poorly when they get sexually frustrated.
One of the problems I’m seeing is asexual in relationships with non asexual feel they have an obligation to give their partners what they want bc “sex is a major part of relationships”.
This is very problematic.
Sex is not a guaranteed part of a relationship even if you are married. You are no obligated to have sex with anyone no matter your relationship status or how long you’ve been with them. This goes for men and women, ace and non ace folks.
To try to force that viewpoint on your partner can cause emotional, mental, and sexual trauma and leave them with scars.
Ask yourself if that’s worth the pleasure.